The first thing you need to make the best Halloween party is atmosphere ,you will need to get creative and deck your house out to make it look spooky, so that when your guests arrive they get a tingle down their spine!
If you dust a lot and your house does not have any of its own cobwebs you can make some of your own to hang from the corners of your ceiling, you can even hang some toy hairy spiders from them to make them even more spooky! The old favourite is to have some decorated pumpkins lying around your home which will really give the impression of Halloween.
You will want to have some spooky music playing as well, have the lights down low and play the theme music to the exorcist,that will really give people the heebie jeebies! but you don't want all the music to be creepy and scary, you need to have fun as well and what better song to play at Halloween than the monster mash!
The next thing you want to plan for is the food, apart from the usual snacks like pizza and sandwiches and nibbles, you will need to make some spooky horrible looking food as well just for fun, there are tons of Halloween recipe ideas on the internet, you will be amazed at some of the things you can do to make your food look gory and frightening!
You will of course want everyone to dress up as there favourite spooky Halloween character,the old favourites being dracula, frankenstein, the wolf man and of course witches.
Last but not least you will want to have some fun spooky activities to play to keep everyone in a spooktastic mood! You could hold a séance if your nerves will hold out, or maybe you could have a tarot card reading, there are so many fun and frightening games you can play at Halloween.
If you get all these things right you will have a Halloween party that no one will forget and probably no one will be able to top!
About the Author
If you are stuck for ideas and do not know how to go about half of these Halloween ideas, then go to my blog for some spooktastic Halloween tips! http://www.halloweentips.blogspot.com
Monday, October 27, 2008
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Ideas of healthy food in children's rooms
We should consider so many important factors in decorating a child's room.
We should consider safety and ecology-friendly concerns. We should think ahead and choose the best mattress for child's tender spine. With regards to the bed, chair, cupboard and table we should give preference to strong and child-friendly furniture for kiddies' rooms. So each and every piece of new furniture should undergo our test whether it is strong enough and child-friendly.
Children are fountains of energy! And we must remember that children's rooms are not only for sleeping, but for active life, games, fun and even sport... we should foresee so many factors. For example, walls: kids might draw pictures on it. So walls should be easily washable. Some parents prefer wall-papered, reasoning that they are more economical and ecological.
Other parents prefer glossy-paper-walls, since they are stronger, and can be washed and even painted several times. There are so many variations, each family should choose according to their own taste. As long as the colours are eye-friendly for a little person.
It has been scientifically proven that the children develop better if the walls are in pastel colours. It is even influencing the health of the children - they get sick less often, are less stressful and more productive with their homework. While bright colours and large figures, on the contrary, will bring tiredness and neuroses. Since a child's room is a private space of your little ones where they should rest from the emotions of the day, the colours of the walls in children's rooms should NOT be too bright.
If pastel tones seem to you too dull and not attractive, then you can choose good accessories, such as teddy bears, colourful lamps, hanging elements or paintings. When decorating, we should take notes of recent research and scientific recommendations. For example, posters and images from cartoons and modern movies should be avoided since it might have a negative effect on the child' development. Much better and healthy for the body and for the mind to choose images of nature: for example, fruits - bright, natural multicolours, they will perfectly bring a huge difference into children's world.
Moreover, fruits can introduce a child to the alphabet and healthy food. Each fruit can contain a smiling face. A very interesting idea that has been shared with me is how to make a child good friends with fruits from the very tender age. Very easy and creative: with the help of magical and healthy fairtytales. It should be narrated to the little one on a daily basis. Preferably it should be an individual story on each fruit that is a part of the room's decoration. The fairytale should, in an easy and entertaining form, explain to the child about the fruit's life-story and health benefits. The main aim of this methodology is to introduce little ones to the world of nature and to develop in children the love for healthy food. Besides, the child will feel very comfortable in his room, being amongst good friends - fruits, as these stories will live in his imagination for years.
When choosing the furniture, parents generally are divided into two groups. The first group declares that independence is above all. They are prepared to change furniture every 2-3 years, be it pedestals, shelves, beds, tables etc.
The second group of parents prefer long-term things. Everything - be it furniture or clothing need to be chosen for several years. ,For example, longer sleeves and trousers pipes are normally bought up oversize and rolled up. Always having an excuse that today everything is too expensive and child can wear the same shoes 2-3 years if they put in it extra pair of thick socks.
Anyway, again, it depends on an individual's preference and choice but a professionals would recommend a golden middle road. Bed and chair - these are the two main items that should really be changed relevant to the child's growth. A tiny tot requires a small cozy bed,a bigger child would prefer a bed with many shelves where he or she could store toys and accessories. The teenager needs a good bed suitable for an grown-up, relevant to his new 'adult' status at school, college or home. The chair should be chosen just as carefully, preferably according to the child's taste. If a child's elbows are at table-height, then you can be sure that this chair is appropriate for him.
A bookshelf is a essential part of a child's room and should be very functional. When a child is still small, the bookshelves can be used for his clothing, later it will be an ideal place for keeping his toys, then books. There will never be enough books as long as they are beneficial for child's mind and heart. We should always be very careful in choosing the right literature for your little treasure.
Let your little one to have the world of good books full of knowledge, kindness, good morals, the world of fairytales and wise stories, that are being narrated by loving parents.
Even the most advanced and exclusive interior without kind words can be replaced by the loving atmosphere created by caring and affectionate parents.
About the Author
Lilia is widely known by parents and educators for her innovative tips and helpful ideas. To discover the methodology that was eagerly embraced by thousands of teachers and parents around the world visit => Children World of Kindness http://www.kindbook.com To read and share healthy recipes => http://www.kindbook.com/healthyrecepies.htm
We should consider safety and ecology-friendly concerns. We should think ahead and choose the best mattress for child's tender spine. With regards to the bed, chair, cupboard and table we should give preference to strong and child-friendly furniture for kiddies' rooms. So each and every piece of new furniture should undergo our test whether it is strong enough and child-friendly.
Children are fountains of energy! And we must remember that children's rooms are not only for sleeping, but for active life, games, fun and even sport... we should foresee so many factors. For example, walls: kids might draw pictures on it. So walls should be easily washable. Some parents prefer wall-papered, reasoning that they are more economical and ecological.
Other parents prefer glossy-paper-walls, since they are stronger, and can be washed and even painted several times. There are so many variations, each family should choose according to their own taste. As long as the colours are eye-friendly for a little person.
It has been scientifically proven that the children develop better if the walls are in pastel colours. It is even influencing the health of the children - they get sick less often, are less stressful and more productive with their homework. While bright colours and large figures, on the contrary, will bring tiredness and neuroses. Since a child's room is a private space of your little ones where they should rest from the emotions of the day, the colours of the walls in children's rooms should NOT be too bright.
If pastel tones seem to you too dull and not attractive, then you can choose good accessories, such as teddy bears, colourful lamps, hanging elements or paintings. When decorating, we should take notes of recent research and scientific recommendations. For example, posters and images from cartoons and modern movies should be avoided since it might have a negative effect on the child' development. Much better and healthy for the body and for the mind to choose images of nature: for example, fruits - bright, natural multicolours, they will perfectly bring a huge difference into children's world.
Moreover, fruits can introduce a child to the alphabet and healthy food. Each fruit can contain a smiling face. A very interesting idea that has been shared with me is how to make a child good friends with fruits from the very tender age. Very easy and creative: with the help of magical and healthy fairtytales. It should be narrated to the little one on a daily basis. Preferably it should be an individual story on each fruit that is a part of the room's decoration. The fairytale should, in an easy and entertaining form, explain to the child about the fruit's life-story and health benefits. The main aim of this methodology is to introduce little ones to the world of nature and to develop in children the love for healthy food. Besides, the child will feel very comfortable in his room, being amongst good friends - fruits, as these stories will live in his imagination for years.
When choosing the furniture, parents generally are divided into two groups. The first group declares that independence is above all. They are prepared to change furniture every 2-3 years, be it pedestals, shelves, beds, tables etc.
The second group of parents prefer long-term things. Everything - be it furniture or clothing need to be chosen for several years. ,For example, longer sleeves and trousers pipes are normally bought up oversize and rolled up. Always having an excuse that today everything is too expensive and child can wear the same shoes 2-3 years if they put in it extra pair of thick socks.
Anyway, again, it depends on an individual's preference and choice but a professionals would recommend a golden middle road. Bed and chair - these are the two main items that should really be changed relevant to the child's growth. A tiny tot requires a small cozy bed,a bigger child would prefer a bed with many shelves where he or she could store toys and accessories. The teenager needs a good bed suitable for an grown-up, relevant to his new 'adult' status at school, college or home. The chair should be chosen just as carefully, preferably according to the child's taste. If a child's elbows are at table-height, then you can be sure that this chair is appropriate for him.
A bookshelf is a essential part of a child's room and should be very functional. When a child is still small, the bookshelves can be used for his clothing, later it will be an ideal place for keeping his toys, then books. There will never be enough books as long as they are beneficial for child's mind and heart. We should always be very careful in choosing the right literature for your little treasure.
Let your little one to have the world of good books full of knowledge, kindness, good morals, the world of fairytales and wise stories, that are being narrated by loving parents.
Even the most advanced and exclusive interior without kind words can be replaced by the loving atmosphere created by caring and affectionate parents.
About the Author
Lilia is widely known by parents and educators for her innovative tips and helpful ideas. To discover the methodology that was eagerly embraced by thousands of teachers and parents around the world visit => Children World of Kindness http://www.kindbook.com To read and share healthy recipes => http://www.kindbook.com/healthyrecepies.htm
Monday, September 1, 2008
Tips for Bowling Party Supplies
Put the bumpers up! It's time to bowl! Bowling parties are a great theme for kids. You have rented the bowling alley, now it's time to choose some bowling party supplies.
INVITATIONS and THANK YOU CARDS
Every bowling party invitation has to have a bowling pin and a bowling ball on it! You choose the color of the paper and the ball. You can even choose invitations with goofy looking people on them. Your thank you cards should match your invitations and both come in sets of eight.
DECORATIONS
Decorations are important for your bowling party, we have banners, streamers, balloons, table centerpieces and of course a pinata. The bowling party supplies are actually limited compared to most other party themes. Possibly due to the reason it's the party is being held in a public place and is still open to other patrons at the same time as your party.
PLATES, CUPS, NAPKINS
Your plates, cups, napkins, plastic wear, and other necessities all come in the traditional package of 8. Your again limited to bowling balls and pins. The same theme is on the table clothes and goody bags.
PARTY FAVORS
Your bowling party supplies offer a much larger selection when it comes to the party favors. You can choose from:
* Bowling water games (handheld game that uses water to guide the little ball down the isle.) * Plastic bowling trophies make great gifts for the winner (s) as well as nice party favors. * A stuffed bowling ball that can be autographed by the guest is an item to have as a special memory of the party. Brightly colored bowling ball shaped pens, rubber bracelets, lanyards, bowling pin key chains, tattoos, mini ping pong bowling game, stickers, action bowling figurines, stuffed bowling ball or pin, plastic mini and full size bowling set for a game at home.
The Glow in the dark bowling package is filled with great bowling party supplies, for a few games of midnight bowling.
Bowling parties are great even though the bowling party supplies are very limited in the sense that you may need to get creative with your decorating skills if you are looking for a transformation in to a total bowling experience!
About the Author
Qing Gu is a party planning expert, freelancer, and owner of a few websites about celebrating holidays and special occasions. Here you can get more ideas from these creative bowling party supplies. You can also find more great ideas for bowling birthday party for your kids.
INVITATIONS and THANK YOU CARDS
Every bowling party invitation has to have a bowling pin and a bowling ball on it! You choose the color of the paper and the ball. You can even choose invitations with goofy looking people on them. Your thank you cards should match your invitations and both come in sets of eight.
DECORATIONS
Decorations are important for your bowling party, we have banners, streamers, balloons, table centerpieces and of course a pinata. The bowling party supplies are actually limited compared to most other party themes. Possibly due to the reason it's the party is being held in a public place and is still open to other patrons at the same time as your party.
PLATES, CUPS, NAPKINS
Your plates, cups, napkins, plastic wear, and other necessities all come in the traditional package of 8. Your again limited to bowling balls and pins. The same theme is on the table clothes and goody bags.
PARTY FAVORS
Your bowling party supplies offer a much larger selection when it comes to the party favors. You can choose from:
* Bowling water games (handheld game that uses water to guide the little ball down the isle.) * Plastic bowling trophies make great gifts for the winner (s) as well as nice party favors. * A stuffed bowling ball that can be autographed by the guest is an item to have as a special memory of the party. Brightly colored bowling ball shaped pens, rubber bracelets, lanyards, bowling pin key chains, tattoos, mini ping pong bowling game, stickers, action bowling figurines, stuffed bowling ball or pin, plastic mini and full size bowling set for a game at home.
The Glow in the dark bowling package is filled with great bowling party supplies, for a few games of midnight bowling.
Bowling parties are great even though the bowling party supplies are very limited in the sense that you may need to get creative with your decorating skills if you are looking for a transformation in to a total bowling experience!
About the Author
Qing Gu is a party planning expert, freelancer, and owner of a few websites about celebrating holidays and special occasions. Here you can get more ideas from these creative bowling party supplies. You can also find more great ideas for bowling birthday party for your kids.
Thursday, August 7, 2008
What to do with a Terminal or sick Child
Nothing breaks a heart like a terminal illness for a child. I lived through this nightmare personally and my empathy goes for the parents as much as the children. FEAR overwhelms Parents preventing them from functioning normally and constricting their very life force. This is an all too real in your face experience with no escape.
Fear in this situation serves no purpose. It both stands in the way of creative thoughts as well as interfering in the flow of love that the child should be experiencing at this time. Naturally no one asks for the fear, yet it comes with an army of its own to invade the peace of mind one normally has.
You can not fight fear and win, you can only change the battle ground. You can only fight another fight... a more productive fight. Fear is real most would argue, but truthfully it is an illusion. It is an illusion of what could be. Of what could be lost. But what if this battle against an illusionary army could be directed toward the source of your fear. Then, at least your actions carry strength, at least your bombs will actually explode in the face of your enemy.
Your child is sick, your child has been diagnosed as terminal. You listen to the doctors, the specialist's, you feel a loss of power because you do not understand medicine well enough to troubleshoot with the doctor about what can be done, or so you believe. A feeling of helplessness overwhelms you. No matter how brave of a face you put on, your child knows your pain, your child feels your pain.
While you fight the battle of fear, your child is fighting a battle for his life while feeling empathy for you, the parents. Doesn't it make more sense to turn from this fear, find some anger and attack this problem in the best effective way possible? Of course it does. STOP fighting the battle of what if... and begin to fight the battle of right now!
Everyday in the world, millions of people get well from some illness, every single day. Every single day events that are called miracles happen, every single day. If you want to be in this category, then fight for it. This article is not religious in nature, but if you are religious then by all means pray. When you are not praying this is what you need to do.
The body has trillions of individual cells, each operating on its own agenda. In a healthy body these cells work in harmony with their own destinies. In other words, when things are operating as they are wired to operate, everything is fine. When the body has illness or dis-ease, then something has caused a set of cells to malfunction. Besides modern medicine how can one correct this imbalance? First by understanding the influence the mind has over the body. If you think of eating a lemon, your mouth will water. If you think of being eaten by a tiger, your heart would race. If you are a happy person, it has been proven you have a much better immune system. Biorhythm is a science where people can control their own heart rate and blood pressure with thought.
Understanding that thought carries huge and powerful influences on the body, it is your job to work with your child to work with his body. Talk to him or her about the trillions of cells in their body. There are different cells to do different jobs, just like different solders in the army. Your child is the General of these solders. Have your child close their eyes and imagine this story as you explain to them.
Imagine a million-trillion solders you have in your body. Some are wearing green, some are wearing yellow, some are wearing red. These solders are very proud to work for you, and they love you very much too. I want you to think about them for a minute, visualize them and send them your love. Now I want you to be aware of the solders. Try to feel them in your body, from your toes to your head. Have your child think of the area of sickness, be that blood, lungs, whatever. Think about those little solders there fighting, and tell them that you love them so much and you know they have been working very hard. Tell them you are sorry you have not talked to them before, but now you will always listen to them. Then say, we are sending more solders to help you fight your battle, and you will win, do not worry. Have your child think, visualize sending these solders to that area, and these solders are happy and strong. Have your child visualize that area heating up with love and action. If you are religious now say a prayer to yourself, not begging, simply stating you send healing energy now from the source through my body and into my child. You are making a statement, not a request. Command the energy to move into your child. Finish this exercise with anything you can find to instigate laughter with your child. Do this exercise everyday with your child. At other times of the day, you visualize a healing cloud of light wrapped around your child. Visualize a balloon of love that you feel up, with love for your child and send mentally to your child's bed to wrap around him or her. If your child is too young to understand your words, then send the healing energy from you to him or her.
The body is influenced from the mind, PERIOD. It is even influenced from other peoples minds - sympathy pregnancy - as an example. Do not wallow in the fear you have, instead turn to the love of your child and share it. Fight with your mind, and your childs mind. Do not ever sit by your child in fear. If fear is present, find the love and work with it. Acknowledge your childs own power to influence and heal his or her body. Teach them how to use it. If finding the love is seems too big of a step from fear, then find anger! Use anger to talk to those solders! But by all means, talk to your childs solders sending them love and intent to get well.
Fear in this situation serves no purpose. It both stands in the way of creative thoughts as well as interfering in the flow of love that the child should be experiencing at this time. Naturally no one asks for the fear, yet it comes with an army of its own to invade the peace of mind one normally has.
You can not fight fear and win, you can only change the battle ground. You can only fight another fight... a more productive fight. Fear is real most would argue, but truthfully it is an illusion. It is an illusion of what could be. Of what could be lost. But what if this battle against an illusionary army could be directed toward the source of your fear. Then, at least your actions carry strength, at least your bombs will actually explode in the face of your enemy.
Your child is sick, your child has been diagnosed as terminal. You listen to the doctors, the specialist's, you feel a loss of power because you do not understand medicine well enough to troubleshoot with the doctor about what can be done, or so you believe. A feeling of helplessness overwhelms you. No matter how brave of a face you put on, your child knows your pain, your child feels your pain.
While you fight the battle of fear, your child is fighting a battle for his life while feeling empathy for you, the parents. Doesn't it make more sense to turn from this fear, find some anger and attack this problem in the best effective way possible? Of course it does. STOP fighting the battle of what if... and begin to fight the battle of right now!
Everyday in the world, millions of people get well from some illness, every single day. Every single day events that are called miracles happen, every single day. If you want to be in this category, then fight for it. This article is not religious in nature, but if you are religious then by all means pray. When you are not praying this is what you need to do.
The body has trillions of individual cells, each operating on its own agenda. In a healthy body these cells work in harmony with their own destinies. In other words, when things are operating as they are wired to operate, everything is fine. When the body has illness or dis-ease, then something has caused a set of cells to malfunction. Besides modern medicine how can one correct this imbalance? First by understanding the influence the mind has over the body. If you think of eating a lemon, your mouth will water. If you think of being eaten by a tiger, your heart would race. If you are a happy person, it has been proven you have a much better immune system. Biorhythm is a science where people can control their own heart rate and blood pressure with thought.
Understanding that thought carries huge and powerful influences on the body, it is your job to work with your child to work with his body. Talk to him or her about the trillions of cells in their body. There are different cells to do different jobs, just like different solders in the army. Your child is the General of these solders. Have your child close their eyes and imagine this story as you explain to them.
Imagine a million-trillion solders you have in your body. Some are wearing green, some are wearing yellow, some are wearing red. These solders are very proud to work for you, and they love you very much too. I want you to think about them for a minute, visualize them and send them your love. Now I want you to be aware of the solders. Try to feel them in your body, from your toes to your head. Have your child think of the area of sickness, be that blood, lungs, whatever. Think about those little solders there fighting, and tell them that you love them so much and you know they have been working very hard. Tell them you are sorry you have not talked to them before, but now you will always listen to them. Then say, we are sending more solders to help you fight your battle, and you will win, do not worry. Have your child think, visualize sending these solders to that area, and these solders are happy and strong. Have your child visualize that area heating up with love and action. If you are religious now say a prayer to yourself, not begging, simply stating you send healing energy now from the source through my body and into my child. You are making a statement, not a request. Command the energy to move into your child. Finish this exercise with anything you can find to instigate laughter with your child. Do this exercise everyday with your child. At other times of the day, you visualize a healing cloud of light wrapped around your child. Visualize a balloon of love that you feel up, with love for your child and send mentally to your child's bed to wrap around him or her. If your child is too young to understand your words, then send the healing energy from you to him or her.
The body is influenced from the mind, PERIOD. It is even influenced from other peoples minds - sympathy pregnancy - as an example. Do not wallow in the fear you have, instead turn to the love of your child and share it. Fight with your mind, and your childs mind. Do not ever sit by your child in fear. If fear is present, find the love and work with it. Acknowledge your childs own power to influence and heal his or her body. Teach them how to use it. If finding the love is seems too big of a step from fear, then find anger! Use anger to talk to those solders! But by all means, talk to your childs solders sending them love and intent to get well.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Some Wives Tales And Pregnancy
It's all great to hear advice during your pregnancy, especially unwelcome advice. I'm sure you've been told by one person or another how to live. Am I right? It only gets worse the further along in your pregnancy you are. Someone will want to tell you that you shouldn't bend, or walk a certain way, not to pick up a baby in case you hurt the one in your stomach or put yourself in labor. As the pregnancy gets closer to the due date you'll be told many different home remedies of how to put yourself in labor. Got a headache? Someone can tell you exactly what to drink to get rid of it without any medication, remember it is important to ask a doctor before trying to take something you've never tried before doing it. But the most fun I have during the course of the 9-10 months stretch is hearing all the wives tales, also known as myths.
I'm pretty sure you aren't going to even care at this point what sex the baby is, all you want is for the morning sickness to stop. You may even be counting down the days until the first trimester is over. Chances are if you morning sickness someone is bound to tell you what sex of the baby is. One wives tale is if you are having severe morning sickness is a sign you are having a girl.
Here's a wives tale that is a lot of fun and you can test it on everyone in your household. Take a thin piece of string or your hair, slide your ring down it, hold it above your belly and let the ring dangle above it. If the rings spins in a circle it is a boy, but if it goes from one side to the other, it is a girl. Once you've tried it out on your tummy, get someone in your house and do it above their hand. Does the ring spin in a circle above your husband's hand? Hmm, is it really and old wives tale or is there really something to it?
Many women claim to suffer from bouts of heartburn during the pregnancy, according to the old wives tell this would mean your baby will be born with a head full of hair. Right before the end of your first trimester your doctor will listen to your baby's heart rate, this is to make sure the baby is doing alright. The wives tale goes, if the heart rate is high it is a girl and a low one is a boy.
Ever have someone tell you that you are carrying high or low and wonder what that really means? Basically if you are carrying your baby low it is closer to your abdomen, a high baby is closer to your chest. Look at yourself in the mirror. How is your baby sitting? The old tale says that if you are carrying high it is a girl, carrying low is a boy.
Wives tales can be a lot of fun but keep in mind these aren't fact. Don't go preparing your child's room just because one of these told you, you were going to have a girl.
About the Author
To learn about first signs of pregnancy and bleeding during pregnancy, visit Pregnancy Facts
I'm pretty sure you aren't going to even care at this point what sex the baby is, all you want is for the morning sickness to stop. You may even be counting down the days until the first trimester is over. Chances are if you morning sickness someone is bound to tell you what sex of the baby is. One wives tale is if you are having severe morning sickness is a sign you are having a girl.
Here's a wives tale that is a lot of fun and you can test it on everyone in your household. Take a thin piece of string or your hair, slide your ring down it, hold it above your belly and let the ring dangle above it. If the rings spins in a circle it is a boy, but if it goes from one side to the other, it is a girl. Once you've tried it out on your tummy, get someone in your house and do it above their hand. Does the ring spin in a circle above your husband's hand? Hmm, is it really and old wives tale or is there really something to it?
Many women claim to suffer from bouts of heartburn during the pregnancy, according to the old wives tell this would mean your baby will be born with a head full of hair. Right before the end of your first trimester your doctor will listen to your baby's heart rate, this is to make sure the baby is doing alright. The wives tale goes, if the heart rate is high it is a girl and a low one is a boy.
Ever have someone tell you that you are carrying high or low and wonder what that really means? Basically if you are carrying your baby low it is closer to your abdomen, a high baby is closer to your chest. Look at yourself in the mirror. How is your baby sitting? The old tale says that if you are carrying high it is a girl, carrying low is a boy.
Wives tales can be a lot of fun but keep in mind these aren't fact. Don't go preparing your child's room just because one of these told you, you were going to have a girl.
About the Author
To learn about first signs of pregnancy and bleeding during pregnancy, visit Pregnancy Facts
Teaching Parents the most important thing to do
This is the only thing a Parent needs to know.
It's Obvious that our culture had become obsessed with teaching Teens how to be successful in corporate America. Kids are exposed to so much information now in school with the advent of the computer and the information age. Of course education is important, and striving for higher goals is not in of its self a bad thing.
But a life of excelling in education and spelling bees does not assure a productive and happy individual. Being successful in life can only be accomplished by a person who knows how to think, how to place value on self, on responsibility and never placing the outcome of the race before the journey of the race.
Research has shown that most people who win the lottery will eventually wind up in worse shape than they were before they won. This is simply because no amount of money will change the way a person thinks or his priorities. Then of course we have powerful and "successful" CEO's who become power hungry and obsessed with money and public standing who wind up destroying a company along with the investors life savings.
These things can happen when a person is not raised with the fundamental building blocks that create a happy and well balanced person. Sure, they learned all the academic information they needed, but they were never taught how to place value on the most important part of being alive.
Living in America, the most rewarding country of all, Teens are still neglected from learning these principles. They go to school, some go to church, they watch extremely adult programming on TV and also they watch their parents and others reactions to life situations. Through all of this, still they do not get direct understanding of how powerful their mind and thoughts are. They learn reactions from others, never being taught that each reaction should be a choice and not a habitual response.
Kids and Parents these days really have their hands full more so than ever. Its no longer possible to shield a kid from the negatives of the world. If a kid is not aware of these things, the day will come when they become exposed to them on their own. There may be a silver lining to that however, as honesty is really the best policy.
Even the best parents however may not have a priority to teach kids these principles simply because they were not raised with them their selves; even as they may have a loving and supportive home which is very important, they may not be teaching their kids how to react out of choice rather than habitual reactions.
Just as an example, perhaps a kid notices how a parent opens a bill then becomes upset that the bill has been raised. The parent may go on a mini tyrant about how they are getting ripped off, how can they afford it ect. Well kids learn everything from example. Usually a kid will emulate that of the same sex parent. Therefore a kid learns through repetition how to react to that situation. This is of course an obvious condition, since most kids will eventually take on the same political side of the parents, the same religion, etc. Kids learn by the parents example. The parent is in fact just continuing that example set by their own parent years and years ago.
So, what is wrong with a person becoming irate when they open yet another higher bill? Well that is a very interesting question and a very important one as well. Surly we can all justify that this situation should justify a pouting reaction. After all something beyond my control happened to me, taking something I value away from me. This makes me angry and when I get angry everyone will know about it! Now I feel helpless for I have no control, so I will get angry and try to scare the hell out of this bill! Subconsciously I remember my parents doing this and that's how I'm supposed to react.
And of course this reaction is not just limited to opening the monthly bills, but I also use this when I'm issued extra work at my company. And you better believe I'm going to get pissed when I get pulled over for going 85 miles and hour on my way to work! If I'm having a particularly challenging week, I may find myself in a pissed off state for most of the day. Now I've developed a certain look in my eyes, and if I cut my eyes to you with this certain death stare, you have better have only good news for me. ha ha.
Well part of being an adult is that we do not let our selves become angry because we simply did not get our way. After all, we tell our kids this all the time. Its just implied that they do what we say, not what we do! Unfortunately we never got direct instructions on how to actually live this way ourselves. Let me just address the serious negatives to this situation starting from the end state. I have become shielded in a mood of discomfort. I dwell on each situation that is causing me distress. In fact, I go through them all one by one and as if that wasn't fun enough, I do it again. Maybe if I think about this long enough I will find some loop hold that will set me free from this hideous cycle of self condemnation.
Living in this bubble of self inflicted discomfort, now I'm oblivious to other things in my life. I haven't even noticed that my son cleaned up his room. I haven't noticed that the roses in the back yard have begun blooming. My mood is tense, my heart rate is high. My awareness is now limited to only the negatives I'm dwelling on. People can easily sense that I'm in no mood for conversation and my sense of humor is fast asleep on me now. After numerous cycles or repeating the same thoughts through my head, now I'm creating a whole new cycle of interesting thoughts. I'm thinking about my retirement now and I wonder if I will have enough to retire with. Then I think, "holy cow, who's worried about retirement when I have kids who need to go to college". Then a stray thought pops into my head, "I wonder if my boss will consider me for a promotion this year? I doubt it, with my luck I'll probably get fired".
Its just simply a universal law that "like attracts like". This principle is not limited to only physical matter, but is also quite valid with a persons own thoughts and experiences. In the example above we have all taken a turn on that ride. You don't need to be a philosopher, a priest or a rocket scientist to see how this principle works. Taking this a step farther we all know someone who is the doom and gloom type of person, and this person will truly have what seems to be one unlucky experience after another. And my personal favorite (not really) is the complainer. This person never ever has anything go right for them; for them life is one long day of one disaster after another. And if you will notice, a few minutes with this person will become infectious. You will suddenly find your own self participating in this disrespect for life trying to top his next complaint with your own. After you manage to pull yourself away from this spiritual vampire, you will find yourself feeling drained, and certainly not happy.
So why do we choose to jump into this bubble of discomfort? It can be such a habitual reaction that we may find ourselves in it before we knew what hit us. It was certainly not something that was forced on us. We voluntarily jumped into it with a sense of familiarity that almost felt like home. It happened so quickly that we didn't even notice it was actually a choice that we made.
At any moment we find ourselves in, in-life, there are an infinite number of things we can think about. Certainly there is a world full of negative things all over the planet that we can choose to think about if we decide too. On the other hand, at any one moment there is a whole world of positive things that exist in that moment that we can think about. Why is that statement so important?
Simply because that is all you have. What you think about is responsible for your experience of each moment and for your whole life experience; your relationships, your memories, your contemplation of the future, all of this is done inside your own head and heart. The KEY is of course CHOICE! In a sense, just for arguments sake, nothing exists outside of a person. Sure our eyes and ears say something is over there. But our experience of that is always and forever, inside us.
This becomes important for you to understand because you have to teach your kids that no experience on the "outside" of them can cause them any harm unless they choose for it to do so. Naturally I'm not speaking of physical dangers, but experiences.
Suppose your Teen starts a new school, in a new state. His first day maybe he finds out that the other kids don't dress like he does. Maybe they don't even talk about the same things as he is used too. Your kid fits in fine where he comes from, but is clearly an outsider at this new school. Some of the older kids tease him, he doesn't feel like he can make friends with these strange kids. Naturally he does what all kids do and becomes upset and he jumps into his bubble of discomfort.
Looking at the big picture how is it possible that this situation causes him harm or discomfort? This situation is completely on the outside of him. In a sense its not much different than watching a new TV show. He is experiencing something new as an observer. His attention is focused on what his new surroundings are, the new people, the new conversations, and even the teasing. Unfortunately he doesn't yet understand that outward experiences have no power to change his mood UNLESS he allows it to do so. Once again in that moment the world is full of experience, and memories. There are great ones, and negative ones. The ones that a person gets in tune with are the ones that they CHOOSE!
Don't you think that our kids need to know that they are not victims to whatever crosses their minds? That they are not victims to things they observe. The most powerful magic that they possess is the ability control what and how they think! What they choose to think about is what they choose to feel. A person should go through life feeling GOOD! A kid should be well informed and taught how to use the most powerful computer on earth, their brains! Once again, I'm not talking about algebra or compound sentences, I'm talking about the foundation of the mind.
In the earlier example of opening the bill, a parent who going to set an example of power and confidence may do something like this. Open the bill, look at it, and set it down. And that's about it!
That's because in his mind, he knows that sacrificing even a minute on being upset and angry is just ridiculous. In the big picture he knows that the whole world is set up on a system of giving and receiving energy. The symbol for this is of course money. He understands that the electricity is something that he wants, something that he needs, and something that really if he had too, would pay twice as much for it as he does. He knows the electric company has a lot of employees and a lot of expenses themselves. When he makes his payment, he is contributing to the whole community for a service that he requests to have. More than that, a 2 percent increase is basically nothing in the big picture of life.
More than that, he keeps the positive attitude that he CHOSE to expereince. No outward force of discomfort invaded his mind and emotions. He did not sacrifice one moment of what he wanted for the chance to pitch a temper tantrum. He sees things in the big picture. He chooses to see the best in people and circumstances. He understands that the quality of his journey through life has nothing to so with opening envelopes or checks for that matter. It is simply, a state of mind.
There is a magical aspect to this that actually goes much farther than just avoiding the temper tantrum. Wise men and women throughout history have tried to tell us in as many ways as they could about these principles.
The magical aspect is that "like attracts like". A positive attitude not only saves the moment, but goes out to save future moments too. That is called the law of attraction. When a person decides to choose positive experiences the universe will began to provide more and more of them for you to experience. These situations are sometimes called luck. Sometimes they are called blessings from God.
I have purposely avoided addressing religious theologies, as there are so many of them and so many different views. And whatever your theology is, just relate these principles to that of your creator. These principles do exist; they were made into the fabric of the whole system just as the planets and forces of nature.
Some famous quotes that reflect these principles; "Cast your bread upon the waters and in many days it returns" "Spirit is the Life, Mind is the builder, the physical is the result" "Live by the sword, die by the sword" "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change"
These are just a few of countless quotes that are simple ways of explaining how our thoughts DO influence experiences they we actually create.What a person believes and expects about the world are key to how this person's life unfolds. Have you noticed that the world is EXACTLY how you believe it is? Think about that. That is a very powerful statement! It is both true for you, and your kids.
In short, always stretch for a better feeling thought than where you are. Teach your kids to do the same. The road to happiness is in choosing how to feel, not reacting to how to feel.
If you want to drive to another state, you may use a road map for directions. When you drive through life, your directions to happiness are your emotions. When you feel bad, you are going the wrong way. Find a better feeling thought, find relief, then you will be headed back in the right direction. The best thing you can do to Parent your kids is to teach them how to use this magical roadmap of life!
About the Author
Author, Baboo Says - a Life Manual for Kids. http://www.baboosays.com
It's Obvious that our culture had become obsessed with teaching Teens how to be successful in corporate America. Kids are exposed to so much information now in school with the advent of the computer and the information age. Of course education is important, and striving for higher goals is not in of its self a bad thing.
But a life of excelling in education and spelling bees does not assure a productive and happy individual. Being successful in life can only be accomplished by a person who knows how to think, how to place value on self, on responsibility and never placing the outcome of the race before the journey of the race.
Research has shown that most people who win the lottery will eventually wind up in worse shape than they were before they won. This is simply because no amount of money will change the way a person thinks or his priorities. Then of course we have powerful and "successful" CEO's who become power hungry and obsessed with money and public standing who wind up destroying a company along with the investors life savings.
These things can happen when a person is not raised with the fundamental building blocks that create a happy and well balanced person. Sure, they learned all the academic information they needed, but they were never taught how to place value on the most important part of being alive.
Living in America, the most rewarding country of all, Teens are still neglected from learning these principles. They go to school, some go to church, they watch extremely adult programming on TV and also they watch their parents and others reactions to life situations. Through all of this, still they do not get direct understanding of how powerful their mind and thoughts are. They learn reactions from others, never being taught that each reaction should be a choice and not a habitual response.
Kids and Parents these days really have their hands full more so than ever. Its no longer possible to shield a kid from the negatives of the world. If a kid is not aware of these things, the day will come when they become exposed to them on their own. There may be a silver lining to that however, as honesty is really the best policy.
Even the best parents however may not have a priority to teach kids these principles simply because they were not raised with them their selves; even as they may have a loving and supportive home which is very important, they may not be teaching their kids how to react out of choice rather than habitual reactions.
Just as an example, perhaps a kid notices how a parent opens a bill then becomes upset that the bill has been raised. The parent may go on a mini tyrant about how they are getting ripped off, how can they afford it ect. Well kids learn everything from example. Usually a kid will emulate that of the same sex parent. Therefore a kid learns through repetition how to react to that situation. This is of course an obvious condition, since most kids will eventually take on the same political side of the parents, the same religion, etc. Kids learn by the parents example. The parent is in fact just continuing that example set by their own parent years and years ago.
So, what is wrong with a person becoming irate when they open yet another higher bill? Well that is a very interesting question and a very important one as well. Surly we can all justify that this situation should justify a pouting reaction. After all something beyond my control happened to me, taking something I value away from me. This makes me angry and when I get angry everyone will know about it! Now I feel helpless for I have no control, so I will get angry and try to scare the hell out of this bill! Subconsciously I remember my parents doing this and that's how I'm supposed to react.
And of course this reaction is not just limited to opening the monthly bills, but I also use this when I'm issued extra work at my company. And you better believe I'm going to get pissed when I get pulled over for going 85 miles and hour on my way to work! If I'm having a particularly challenging week, I may find myself in a pissed off state for most of the day. Now I've developed a certain look in my eyes, and if I cut my eyes to you with this certain death stare, you have better have only good news for me. ha ha.
Well part of being an adult is that we do not let our selves become angry because we simply did not get our way. After all, we tell our kids this all the time. Its just implied that they do what we say, not what we do! Unfortunately we never got direct instructions on how to actually live this way ourselves. Let me just address the serious negatives to this situation starting from the end state. I have become shielded in a mood of discomfort. I dwell on each situation that is causing me distress. In fact, I go through them all one by one and as if that wasn't fun enough, I do it again. Maybe if I think about this long enough I will find some loop hold that will set me free from this hideous cycle of self condemnation.
Living in this bubble of self inflicted discomfort, now I'm oblivious to other things in my life. I haven't even noticed that my son cleaned up his room. I haven't noticed that the roses in the back yard have begun blooming. My mood is tense, my heart rate is high. My awareness is now limited to only the negatives I'm dwelling on. People can easily sense that I'm in no mood for conversation and my sense of humor is fast asleep on me now. After numerous cycles or repeating the same thoughts through my head, now I'm creating a whole new cycle of interesting thoughts. I'm thinking about my retirement now and I wonder if I will have enough to retire with. Then I think, "holy cow, who's worried about retirement when I have kids who need to go to college". Then a stray thought pops into my head, "I wonder if my boss will consider me for a promotion this year? I doubt it, with my luck I'll probably get fired".
Its just simply a universal law that "like attracts like". This principle is not limited to only physical matter, but is also quite valid with a persons own thoughts and experiences. In the example above we have all taken a turn on that ride. You don't need to be a philosopher, a priest or a rocket scientist to see how this principle works. Taking this a step farther we all know someone who is the doom and gloom type of person, and this person will truly have what seems to be one unlucky experience after another. And my personal favorite (not really) is the complainer. This person never ever has anything go right for them; for them life is one long day of one disaster after another. And if you will notice, a few minutes with this person will become infectious. You will suddenly find your own self participating in this disrespect for life trying to top his next complaint with your own. After you manage to pull yourself away from this spiritual vampire, you will find yourself feeling drained, and certainly not happy.
So why do we choose to jump into this bubble of discomfort? It can be such a habitual reaction that we may find ourselves in it before we knew what hit us. It was certainly not something that was forced on us. We voluntarily jumped into it with a sense of familiarity that almost felt like home. It happened so quickly that we didn't even notice it was actually a choice that we made.
At any moment we find ourselves in, in-life, there are an infinite number of things we can think about. Certainly there is a world full of negative things all over the planet that we can choose to think about if we decide too. On the other hand, at any one moment there is a whole world of positive things that exist in that moment that we can think about. Why is that statement so important?
Simply because that is all you have. What you think about is responsible for your experience of each moment and for your whole life experience; your relationships, your memories, your contemplation of the future, all of this is done inside your own head and heart. The KEY is of course CHOICE! In a sense, just for arguments sake, nothing exists outside of a person. Sure our eyes and ears say something is over there. But our experience of that is always and forever, inside us.
This becomes important for you to understand because you have to teach your kids that no experience on the "outside" of them can cause them any harm unless they choose for it to do so. Naturally I'm not speaking of physical dangers, but experiences.
Suppose your Teen starts a new school, in a new state. His first day maybe he finds out that the other kids don't dress like he does. Maybe they don't even talk about the same things as he is used too. Your kid fits in fine where he comes from, but is clearly an outsider at this new school. Some of the older kids tease him, he doesn't feel like he can make friends with these strange kids. Naturally he does what all kids do and becomes upset and he jumps into his bubble of discomfort.
Looking at the big picture how is it possible that this situation causes him harm or discomfort? This situation is completely on the outside of him. In a sense its not much different than watching a new TV show. He is experiencing something new as an observer. His attention is focused on what his new surroundings are, the new people, the new conversations, and even the teasing. Unfortunately he doesn't yet understand that outward experiences have no power to change his mood UNLESS he allows it to do so. Once again in that moment the world is full of experience, and memories. There are great ones, and negative ones. The ones that a person gets in tune with are the ones that they CHOOSE!
Don't you think that our kids need to know that they are not victims to whatever crosses their minds? That they are not victims to things they observe. The most powerful magic that they possess is the ability control what and how they think! What they choose to think about is what they choose to feel. A person should go through life feeling GOOD! A kid should be well informed and taught how to use the most powerful computer on earth, their brains! Once again, I'm not talking about algebra or compound sentences, I'm talking about the foundation of the mind.
In the earlier example of opening the bill, a parent who going to set an example of power and confidence may do something like this. Open the bill, look at it, and set it down. And that's about it!
That's because in his mind, he knows that sacrificing even a minute on being upset and angry is just ridiculous. In the big picture he knows that the whole world is set up on a system of giving and receiving energy. The symbol for this is of course money. He understands that the electricity is something that he wants, something that he needs, and something that really if he had too, would pay twice as much for it as he does. He knows the electric company has a lot of employees and a lot of expenses themselves. When he makes his payment, he is contributing to the whole community for a service that he requests to have. More than that, a 2 percent increase is basically nothing in the big picture of life.
More than that, he keeps the positive attitude that he CHOSE to expereince. No outward force of discomfort invaded his mind and emotions. He did not sacrifice one moment of what he wanted for the chance to pitch a temper tantrum. He sees things in the big picture. He chooses to see the best in people and circumstances. He understands that the quality of his journey through life has nothing to so with opening envelopes or checks for that matter. It is simply, a state of mind.
There is a magical aspect to this that actually goes much farther than just avoiding the temper tantrum. Wise men and women throughout history have tried to tell us in as many ways as they could about these principles.
The magical aspect is that "like attracts like". A positive attitude not only saves the moment, but goes out to save future moments too. That is called the law of attraction. When a person decides to choose positive experiences the universe will began to provide more and more of them for you to experience. These situations are sometimes called luck. Sometimes they are called blessings from God.
I have purposely avoided addressing religious theologies, as there are so many of them and so many different views. And whatever your theology is, just relate these principles to that of your creator. These principles do exist; they were made into the fabric of the whole system just as the planets and forces of nature.
Some famous quotes that reflect these principles; "Cast your bread upon the waters and in many days it returns" "Spirit is the Life, Mind is the builder, the physical is the result" "Live by the sword, die by the sword" "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change"
These are just a few of countless quotes that are simple ways of explaining how our thoughts DO influence experiences they we actually create.What a person believes and expects about the world are key to how this person's life unfolds. Have you noticed that the world is EXACTLY how you believe it is? Think about that. That is a very powerful statement! It is both true for you, and your kids.
In short, always stretch for a better feeling thought than where you are. Teach your kids to do the same. The road to happiness is in choosing how to feel, not reacting to how to feel.
If you want to drive to another state, you may use a road map for directions. When you drive through life, your directions to happiness are your emotions. When you feel bad, you are going the wrong way. Find a better feeling thought, find relief, then you will be headed back in the right direction. The best thing you can do to Parent your kids is to teach them how to use this magical roadmap of life!
About the Author
Author, Baboo Says - a Life Manual for Kids. http://www.baboosays.com
Friday, July 11, 2008
To Relocate Or Not To Relocate
"We're moving to Finland," says my husband. "What? When? How?" say I. "We don't want to move out of the country," scream my children. "Wait, let me get on my breathing machine," says my mother. "Don't do it," says my father-in-law. But my husband can't help but get excited.
"It's a once in a lifetime opportunity," he says. "I'll be too old to get another offer like this if I wait until the kids graduate from high school. And I know this stuff. I'm good at it and I won't have to learn anything new."
I couldn't believe it. He was seriously considering a move to Finland--a country we know absolutely nothing about. After being out of work for nearly two years, the $75,000 yearly salary seemed too good to pass up. It would mean getting back to where we were before we left his secure job in California and ventured out to start a new life. It would mean no more financial juggling. It would mean that I wouldn't have to work so hard and it would mean I could go back to enjoying the role of mother and part-time business woman. And besides, we've always talked about working overseas and traveling the globe.
But could we really pack up and move to Finland? Had the offer been for Italy, Rome, France, Germany, Hawaii, or even the Bahamas, I probably would've jumped on the band wagon with him. But Finland? We can't even stand the cold of Wisconsin. And then there were our kids to consider.
After a long family discussion with the kids, I'm happy to report that my husband has turned down the offer. Sure, it was a great opportunity. Yes, the pay was excellent. And the benefits were great, too. But my husband decided that no amount of money would be worth uprooting our kids from their grandparents to move to a country they didn't want to be in.
Now if a job in the United States would just open up, we could relieve some of the financial stress and I could start enjoying "family time" again.
What To Do When You Decide To Relocate Taking the time to determine if relocating your family is the right decision is more than just dollar and cents. Moving to a new place can be a heart wrenching experience for children. In fact, it can be just as hard on parents as you leave behind close family, friends, familiar activities, and the life you've grown to love. But sometimes, moving is the only solution to keeping peace in the house or staying financially afloat.
Answer these questions before you decide to relocate your family across town or across state:
1. Are you moving to better your family life or to afford more luxuries?
2. Will moving give you better health insurance or take your insurance away?
3. Will you lose the money you put into your retirement account or can it be transferred?
4. Are you moving because of a job promotion, because there are no jobs in your area, or because you are changing careers?
5. Have you discussed what the move would mean to your spouse and his/her career?
6. Have you discussed the move with your children and given them a say in the decision?
7. Have you made a list of pros and cons with regards to your new job and new location? Do the pros outweigh the cons?
Once you've answered the above questions, you can help prepare your children for the move by getting your children involved in the process from the start:
1. Tell your children why you are planning to move.
2. Ask your children about their concerns. Address their fears, worries, and anger with an open-mind.
3. Show your children a map of the town they'll be relocating to.
4. Order an apartment guide or home owner's guide and let your children pick out their dream home and then narrow it down by what you can afford to pay for rent or mortgage payments.
5. Order tourist information and show your children all the fun things there are to do in the area.
6. Order the local paper and read the good stuff to your children, but keep the negatives to yourself. Knowing the good and bad about a town is essential from a parent's point of view, but not the best way to ease a child's mind.
7. Take a mini-vacation to the area you plan to relocate to. Let your children see and experience the area first-hand. Let them discuss the pros and cons of the new area and don't be afraid to agree with any of their cons. It's important that you don't paint a flawless picture because no place is perfect.
About the Author
Alyice Edrich is the author of several highly praised e-books designed to help you work from home. To discover how you can earn $50 in two hours or up to $10K in your spare time visit her store: http://thedabblingmum.com/ebookstore
"It's a once in a lifetime opportunity," he says. "I'll be too old to get another offer like this if I wait until the kids graduate from high school. And I know this stuff. I'm good at it and I won't have to learn anything new."
I couldn't believe it. He was seriously considering a move to Finland--a country we know absolutely nothing about. After being out of work for nearly two years, the $75,000 yearly salary seemed too good to pass up. It would mean getting back to where we were before we left his secure job in California and ventured out to start a new life. It would mean no more financial juggling. It would mean that I wouldn't have to work so hard and it would mean I could go back to enjoying the role of mother and part-time business woman. And besides, we've always talked about working overseas and traveling the globe.
But could we really pack up and move to Finland? Had the offer been for Italy, Rome, France, Germany, Hawaii, or even the Bahamas, I probably would've jumped on the band wagon with him. But Finland? We can't even stand the cold of Wisconsin. And then there were our kids to consider.
After a long family discussion with the kids, I'm happy to report that my husband has turned down the offer. Sure, it was a great opportunity. Yes, the pay was excellent. And the benefits were great, too. But my husband decided that no amount of money would be worth uprooting our kids from their grandparents to move to a country they didn't want to be in.
Now if a job in the United States would just open up, we could relieve some of the financial stress and I could start enjoying "family time" again.
What To Do When You Decide To Relocate Taking the time to determine if relocating your family is the right decision is more than just dollar and cents. Moving to a new place can be a heart wrenching experience for children. In fact, it can be just as hard on parents as you leave behind close family, friends, familiar activities, and the life you've grown to love. But sometimes, moving is the only solution to keeping peace in the house or staying financially afloat.
Answer these questions before you decide to relocate your family across town or across state:
1. Are you moving to better your family life or to afford more luxuries?
2. Will moving give you better health insurance or take your insurance away?
3. Will you lose the money you put into your retirement account or can it be transferred?
4. Are you moving because of a job promotion, because there are no jobs in your area, or because you are changing careers?
5. Have you discussed what the move would mean to your spouse and his/her career?
6. Have you discussed the move with your children and given them a say in the decision?
7. Have you made a list of pros and cons with regards to your new job and new location? Do the pros outweigh the cons?
Once you've answered the above questions, you can help prepare your children for the move by getting your children involved in the process from the start:
1. Tell your children why you are planning to move.
2. Ask your children about their concerns. Address their fears, worries, and anger with an open-mind.
3. Show your children a map of the town they'll be relocating to.
4. Order an apartment guide or home owner's guide and let your children pick out their dream home and then narrow it down by what you can afford to pay for rent or mortgage payments.
5. Order tourist information and show your children all the fun things there are to do in the area.
6. Order the local paper and read the good stuff to your children, but keep the negatives to yourself. Knowing the good and bad about a town is essential from a parent's point of view, but not the best way to ease a child's mind.
7. Take a mini-vacation to the area you plan to relocate to. Let your children see and experience the area first-hand. Let them discuss the pros and cons of the new area and don't be afraid to agree with any of their cons. It's important that you don't paint a flawless picture because no place is perfect.
About the Author
Alyice Edrich is the author of several highly praised e-books designed to help you work from home. To discover how you can earn $50 in two hours or up to $10K in your spare time visit her store: http://thedabblingmum.com/ebookstore
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